tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802434725380248069.post7904262740456157952..comments2011-11-28T04:04:17.729-08:00Comments on The Journeys of Alex Graves: fathersAlexander Freeman Graveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03192050860282204218noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802434725380248069.post-32680335991762453062008-10-25T16:18:00.000-07:002008-10-25T16:18:00.000-07:00Alex,you are right. The struggles you articulate s...Alex,you are right. The struggles you articulate so well are the same struggles I had with my dad when I was your age. To paraphrase an old adage, there is nothing new in the world, everything is just recylced, is true, especially when it comes to father and son relationships.<BR/><BR/>You are also right that the feed back you hear from your parents is based in a very deep love, not only for your safety but that you will become the man God wants you to be.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure it feels like parents don't listen to what their children want or what they desire to do when they tell you that whatever it is you're thinking about doing, isn't a very good idea. That is not because we can see into the future and predict that you might be hurt, physically or emotionally, but because, while the places and people maybe different in your life today, the reality is that we probably have already lived through very similiar circumstances in our lives. <BR/><BR/>So yes, it is too easy for us to say we know more than you do about certain things in life just because we have lived longer and gone though more. And it also too easy for a child to blow off their parents concern as uncaring, overly controlling and unsupportive to what they want to do just because they don't throw a party every time you voice a new direction in our life.<BR/>By the way, I'm ready go play golf anytime you want.<BR/>DadAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11025214203150934286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3802434725380248069.post-87779255959245589342008-07-29T13:39:00.000-07:002008-07-29T13:39:00.000-07:00Dude.Long story short, I struggle with my parents ...Dude.<BR/>Long story short, I struggle with my parents as well. There is a rift growing between my dad and I as well. I fear that these rifts are necessary, this contention, these battles and arguments, it's part of establishing personal dominance, and establishing yourself / myself as an Individual unit rather than a part of his family. I know your parents, man. You are right about their concern for you. Their seeming lack of support, I believe it to be more of an inadvertent support. They support you by asking the questions that they feel you need to know, be aware of. Ultimately, I know they just want you to be happy, and be able to support yourself (and whatever family may introduce themselves down the line).<BR/><BR/>On another note, seriously take a look at your plans. Pray about them, and find comfort in the Word. As my mother has always told me, things happen for a reason. If things are meant to be, then they will fall into place without much effort.<BR/><BR/>Last, I love you as a brother, my friend. I wish you the best of luck on all of your journeys, and I know you have the willpower, and sheer determination to make your place in this world, to make yourself heard, just make sure to take time to listen and hear what others are saying. <BR/><BR/>-Your Brother;<BR/>-Michael (VA)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com